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Sixth Sunday of Epiphany-Feb 11

07 Feb

Reason For Living-The church today often fails to recognize that the elderly need a reason for living. Men who work their whole lives see their reason for living tied to their work. When they retire, they often lose that and need to find another. Without it, they often become depressed and die. The highest death rate for men is shortly after they retire because they often lose their will to live. The church needs the talents and abilities of those who retire, but often fails to utilize them. While women are more tied to family and not so tied to work and do not face the crisis at retirement that men do, they too often have talents and abilities the church could use. The church needs to consciously work to help those of all ages, but especially those who are retiring find areas for them to use their talents and abilities for God’s service and should have an ongoing committee dedicated to getting to know members and help them discover and use their talents for God.

 

 

Fifth Sunday of Epiphany-Feb 4

31 Jan

Transportation is often a problem with Senior Citizens. Many Senior Citizens drive long after they should stop because they have no other way to get around. I once was asked to visit a man in the country.  As I drove up the farm lane and met an elderly man. I asked him if he was the one I sought but he replied that was his father who was throwing rocks up on the fence row that had been turned up by the plow, though he was 96 years old. I later visited a pastor in a nearby town and was telling him about the man. He stated he knew who I meant for the man went to his church. They had taken his car away because they didn’t feel it was safe for him to drive so he drove his tractor 8 miles to church every week. He was an exception for it is often no longer safe for many elderly people to drive or they are no longer able to. Once they can no longer drive, they are often confined to home and it is difficult to get food and other things they need. Many Senior citizens live in small towns where there is no bus or taxi system. Even where they are available, they are often expensive. While the government provides some transportation for Senior Citizens, many live beyond its reach. Neighbors going to the store can pick them up and take them along or pick up a few items for them while they shop. If the Senior Citizen enjoys children, mothers of young children may appreciate a Senior Citizen who looks after their kids while they go to the store and can pick up what the elderly person needs while they are there. (For more suggestions on ministering to the elderly, see video  “Ministering to the Elderly” on You Tube

 

 

Fourth Sunday of Epiphany

25 Jan

Nutrition-A major problem with the elderly is eating right. While many do not feel that nutrition is an important among the elderly, it is really an important ministry to the one who receives the meals. Elderly women who are used to cooking for someone may not feel much like fixing meals just for themselves. Arthritis and other ailments may also make cooking difficult. Many widowed men are used to their wives cooking and not used to cooking for themselves. In addition, many elderly do not feel much like eating alone and may skip meals resulting in malnutrition that leads to poor health. Home delivered meals provide a daily nutritious meal for them. In addition, the delivery provides a daily check on them to make sure they are alright which is important because they may not have anyone to check on them otherwise. It also provides a friendly visit. While those delivering the meals usually can’t stop for long, a cheerful greeting is very welcome to someone who rarely sees anyone. Sit-down meals are provided at many Senior centers and some provide transportation to those within a limited distance but many live too far from a Senior Center to get to the meals. Churches may offer luncheons to Seniors who live nearby or provide transportation to Senior Centers. Home delivered meals are available through many Senior Centers but the elderly may live too far from the center to get them. Individuals who drop by with a prepared meal occasionally and stay to share it are appreciated. Several elderly living close to each other may get together and eat together. I once visited an elderly woman who lived on the second floor of an apartment building. Three other elderly ladies lived on her floor. One of the women had previously had a big family and was used to cooking for them but they had all moved away and none of them lived nearby. She got the other ladies together and told them that if each contributed a portion of the cost of groceries, she would cook for them all and they could eat together. The women agreed and it benefited them all. A mother of young children can occasionally invite an elderly neighbor over to share lunch while the kids take their nap, allowing her much needed fellowship as  well as the Senior.

 

 

 

Third Sunday of Epiphany-Jan 21

21 Jan

Chores-As the elderly get older, they are can no longer do many of the things that they used to do. Relatively simple things like mowing the lawn, shoveling snow, and similar chores may become too difficult. Many do not have money to hire the work done and it is often difficult finding someone to do the work even if they could afford to pay someone. Christian neighbors can easily do the work when they mow their own lawn or shovel their own walk. Children can learn the value of money by charging small fees to do the work and it would cost the elderly far less than if they hired a professional company to do the work.

 

 

Second Sunday of Epiphany-Jan 14

13 Jan

Many elderly worry about what would happen if they fell and there was no one to help them. Many get no visits except for those that come to deliver groceries or pick up and deliver laundry. They might lie for days before someone came. Others able to get out might become sick suddenly. A couple years ago, an elderly man in lower Michigan became sick and could not get out to the post office. The checks to pay his utility bill lay on his table but he could not get out to mail them. The utility company sent a shutoff notice when they didn’t get any payments and eventually shut off the utilities. The man froze to death without heat. There was a great uproar about how the utility company should have tried to contact him. Yet, it all could have been prevented if someone had called or visited him and mailed his letters for him. Calling and visiting the elderly regularly can prevent such tragedies and ease their minds.  I once visited an elderly lady who told me how thankful she was that God was watching over her. She lived alone and her only outside contact was a young woman who visited her every Thursday and washed her clothes. There was a bad winter storm on that Monday and the young woman felt God urging her to check on the elderly lady. She resisted at first because the roads were bad and it was ten miles away, but she finally decided to go. She knocked on the front door but got no answer so she went around back to knock on the back door in case the elderly lady was in the back part of the house. She found the elderly lady laying on the walk outside the house. The lady had gone out just before the young woman arrived (she didn’t remember why) and had fallen on the ice. Had the young woman not arrived when she did, the elderly lady would have quickly frozen to death. God had told the young woman to go even before the elderly lady went outside. Had the young woman ignored the call, the elderly lady would have died, because no one knew she was there.

 

 

First Sunday of Epiphany-Jan 7

04 Jan

Loneliness-Jesus came to bring Light into a world filled with darkness. You can bring light into the life of an elderly person. Several years ago, my parents were severely beaten by thieves that broke into their home. After that, they were not able to get out much, yet no one came to visit them. My two brothers and I called and visited when we could, but we lived too far away to visit regularly. There are many elderly people like them that can not get out much and who do not have anyone close to them to call or visit them. They may have workers who come in to clean or the fix their meals and help them bathe but the workers rarely have time to stay and visit. Many elderly who are homebound would welcome regular calls or visits from Christian neighbors. Do you know of any elderly people living on your street? In addition, there are many in nursing homes who do not get visits from anyone and would also welcome regular visits. You may feel it would be difficult visiting because you have children, but if they are well behaved, the elderly person might welcome them. Many have grandchildren they have never seen and would love to have children to spend time with. When all you have to think about is getting old, it is depressing but seeing children lightens the day. Check first, but they will probably welcome the visits of children.

 

Fifth Sunday of Pentecost-June 25

22 Jun

Visiting homebound-As the government has developed home care services for those elderly who can no longer take care of themselves, more of those who need a little help each morning getting bathed and dressed, but can take care of themselves after that, have been able to stay in their own homes instead of going into a nursing home. The result has saved the government a great deal as home care usually costs only 1/2 to 1/3 of nursing home care and has enabled many to stay in their homes, however it also tends to isolate them. Workers come in daily but must complete their work and move on to the next client so they can not stay and visit. In addition, there are many who can take care of themselves and don’t need help, but they can no longer drive and get out. The grocery may deliver their groceries and the laundry picks up, cleans, and returns their laundry but they don’t have time to stop and visit. Many elderly confined to their own homes do not see anyone besides any care givers and medical personnel they have, and could use someone who is willing to come and spend time talking to them. The elderly often appreciate visits by children who are well behaved and teens because they may have grandchildren but have never seen them because they live at a great distance and the children and teens often enjoy visiting the elderly who have the time to sit and talk with them or play games with them, because their parents often work and don’t have the time.

 

Eighth Sunday of Pentecost-July 24

20 Jul

Nursing Homes  Nursing homes have changed over the years. They used to be short term where people went to die. Now they are often short term for therapy and then residents return to their homes. Far fewer die in nursing homes these days. There is a great need for workers to minister to those in nursing homes. Many are away from family, friends, and familiar surroundings. Many are no longer able to take care of themselves or do many things they used to do, either temporarily or permanently.  In addition, many of those there are facing death and need to deal with it. Like young people, they are facing a transition and are making decisions that will impact, not only the rest of their life (short as that may be), but where they will spend eternity. Many are open to hearing the hope of the Gospels. Many have lost loved ones who may be Christians but they themselves aren’t. Also, many have no family or friends nearby and have no visitors. They welcome those who come to visit. Many enjoy visits from children (though some don’t so be sure and check first) It’s a good way to teach children to minister to others and children often enjoy it as well. The government has recognized the bonding that children and the elderly develop and has begun pairing nursing homes with Day Care Centers for inter-generational programs.

 

video-Life After retirement-promo

01 Jul

 

 

Video-Life After Retirement

17 Jun